{"id":739,"date":"2019-02-04T01:25:41","date_gmt":"2019-02-04T01:25:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dignifieddialogue.ca\/?p=739"},"modified":"2019-05-14T08:15:48","modified_gmt":"2019-05-14T08:15:48","slug":"dignified-dialogue-the-invitation%e2%80%8b","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dignifieddialogue.com\/?p=739","title":{"rendered":"Dignified Dialogue: The Invitation\u200b"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"739\" class=\"elementor elementor-739\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-adf5779 elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"adf5779\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-77ff4615\" data-id=\"77ff4615\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-530d12d6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"530d12d6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Dignified Dialogue: The Invitation<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54baa6ff elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"54baa6ff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">by Jamil Popatia | November 21, 2018<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3abfe665 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3abfe665\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__list is-grid columns-3 has-dates wp-block-latest-posts\"><li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/dignifieddialogue.com\/?p=967\">Enemy Images and the Creation of \u201cThe Other\u201d: Reflections on the New Zealand Mosque Shootings<\/a><time datetime=\"2019-04-08T07:45:30+00:00\" class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-date\">April 8, 2019<\/time><\/li>\n<li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/dignifieddialogue.com\/?p=754\">Dignified Dialogue: Beginning with Ourselves<\/a><time datetime=\"2019-02-04T01:35:13+00:00\" class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-date\">February 4, 2019<\/time><\/li>\n<li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/dignifieddialogue.com\/?p=739\">Dignified Dialogue: The Invitation\u200b<\/a><time datetime=\"2019-02-04T01:25:41+00:00\" class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-date\">February 4, 2019<\/time><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-47f36b60 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"47f36b60\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-afe9c2d\" data-id=\"afe9c2d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6c0b655 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6c0b655\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Whether it be a challenging relationship with a spouse or a the monotony of a career that doesn\u2019t bring any fulfillment, it seems that life often veers far from the direction we want it to go. And that hurts &#8211; sometimes badly. When we share these mishaps with our family and friends, the hurt is oftentimes exacerbated when we are offered less than empathic responses, usually in the form of coaching, advising, trivializing, etc. While these responses usually come from a place of care and concern, rarely is it the response we are longing for.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I have never met anyone who did not view happiness as a positive pursuit but when I ask people what it is that they believe will make them happy, I am still quite surprised with the responses I get; more money, a better job, a bigger house, better relationships, moving to another city or country, etc., etc. Rarely, if ever does the answer focus on meaning and dignity. Is it that our sense of joy and contentment in life is solely determined by our external circumstances? I\u2019ve asked myself this question over and over and I have looked for, even hoped for, some sort of evidence that would suggest that our sense of well-being and happiness is dependent on external circumstances. Also, I have spent a great deal of time travelling and learning in places and countries that would certainly not be characterized as affluent. Shouldn\u2019t people in those places be unhappy, unfulfilled? Indeed, some of them were but many of them seemed to be in a state of dignified surrender and joy, despite not having much material to speak for.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So as I sit here writing what will be the first of many scribblings, I am honored and privileged to have you join me along this journey \u2013 a journey that seeks connection, compassion and community in its wayfaring. I want to approach how I communicate with others and myself such that it continues to bring me joy, meaning and purpose. 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